Female Orgasm: All A Man MUST Know (but Ignore Too Often!)

What do you know about female orgasm? When and why does it happen, how does it recognize it, is it automatic (that you normally know not). Lack of training at school, lack of sex education, lack of discussions between friends on the subject of female orgasm, and also a great lack of communication between men and women: that's why we do not know much about the female orgasm.

In this article, we offer you an accelerated catch-up course on the mysteries of female pleasure, to become a good shot and to give them more orgasms.

Without Bra, with my big boobs.......

When we are in a relationship and we are interested in her love, her well-being, her pleasure, we take the time to talk with her to find out what she likes, to know how she likes to be taken and affected, to know how she enjoys the best, in what position, with what force of caresses etc ...

You still need to be confident to have these kinds of conversations, and that's the first tip I'll give you today.

I know that some of you have little experience in sex , I know some of you have blockages to talk about sex, but believe me: if you do not progress sexually, if the pleasure of sex your companion is not one of your priorities, you will soon end up single or cuckold (although, some men are not disturbed by the fact of being cheated, but that's another story).

Back to our female orgasm: a woman who enjoys, a woman who gets on with you will never be angry for a long time and will not often want to go elsewhere (or even for some women).

The female orgasm is important, and that's why we talk about it today. He is the cover of all women's magazines, all Glamor and Cosmo focus on the female sex to help women to let go and have the best orgasms of their lives. The sexual revolution did not erect the female orgasm in law, but in duty.

Now, if a man does not give full sexual satisfaction, it can be exchanged for another who will perform better in bed. (Girls' opinions on the question: when they like a guy, they often leave us a second try, even a third, but will soon ask the question of sexual compatibility , vital for most couples).

Can a woman stay in a relationship with a man who does not enjoy her? For whom sex is not that important? These are personal questions, which of course are settled on a case-by-case basis, but the overall trend is towards the demand for performance in society, and the sexual life is no exception.

The questions men ask about female orgasm

I reproduce in full a question received by mail: "  I 've applied several tips that come from your training with my girlfriend and I must say it was a success each time, she really seemed to take his foot. However a question remains, I can not really see when the female orgasm arrives because it is not really visual like that of the man, so I do not know if it simulates or not (parano the guy) . Are there any specific signs as to whether or not one has made one's partner enjoy?And when does she have an orgasm? The fact that the clitoris becomes ultra-sensitive and that even a small caress becomes "unpleasant" is it a sign? The fact that she releases cum from time to time on the bed is it one? The fact that breathing is accelerating and that it moves in all directions by clinging to me and nothing is there any other? In short I am a little lost with all this information and am not sure that I make it enjoy every time. "

The figures on female orgasm

One of the most recent studies on female orgasm and pleasure confirms that nothing is automatic and that all women are not housed in the same boat:

• 49% of French women admit to having "fairly regular" difficulties to reach orgasm , the highest level of all countries surveyed in the survey.
• 37% of French women have enjoyed "at least once a week" in the last three months, the lowest proportion observed in the countries surveyed in Western Europe and North America.
• 52% of French women say they have "often" been with a partner during their lifetime, a rate well below that measured in other Western countries.
• 31% of French women simulate "quite regularly" orgasm with their partner, the highest level observed in Western Europe and North America.
• 25% of French women had no orgasm at their last report, a record proportion in Europe, almost twice as high as for example among Dutch women (15%).

Source: this ifop study . What do these numbers say? Choice: the French are depressed (as we know, our women are among the biggest consumers of antidepressants in the world ), or we take it like sleeves, guys ... (and it may be why our women are shooting).

If you want even more numbers to confuse your brain, or reassure you, I also recommend the excellent site http://kinseyconfidential.org/ Kinsey Confidential, named after Dr. Alfred Kinsey, one of the first researchers to to be bent on human sexuality, a few years before the Masters spouses. ( Masters of Sex series , and rotten film with Liam Neeson to see: Dr. Kinsey ).

What conclusion to draw ? Some women have miserable sex lives, gentlemen. Really. And it is our duty to help them to smile again (I already see the title of a future article: "How I made the women of my region feel like a kid")

2 tips to provoke more female orgasm!

We will answer our reader: the female orgasm does not have the same intensity in all women, it is hard to spot. Recently, I was told "It was crazy, you made me cum twice" . I was stunned: I was not sure if I had provoked one.

She had stealthy orgasms, very young. There are, however, some warning signs, these famous "signs that she had an orgasm" .

Concretely: the breathing accelerates (and some women sometimes block their breathing, stop breathing at the moment of orgasm, it can be scary), the heart is racing, the heartbeats go from 80 to 110 or 120 per minute and can reach 185 at the ultimate peak of ecstasy. (Sweat level, we move to a sporty pace when we reach 185 beats / min, it is a more complicated indicator to feel)

The clitoris comes into erection (you feel it become harder and swell with blood), the vaginal lips swell, the vagina lengthens and contracts (harder to spot for lengthening, but contraction, you can feel it ), the volume of the breasts increases and the nipples harden and point (again, it's okay and it comes, not a 100% reliable index). The veins of the chest are sometimes more apparent. The skin becomes red, especially on the cheeks.

But if I have any advice to give you, the simplest, valid in all situations, is to ask her what she likes, how she enjoys, what position she prefers, what pace she wants. Everything is a question of communication in a couple, and sexual communication is a very important part!

The clitoris: anatomy course needed!

Given the figures on vaginal orgasm, which would only be felt by a third of women, I refer you directly to the article to learn how to do a cunnilingus .

Discover the area, learn how it works, discuss with her the dosage of caresses she likes to receive. Does she prefer to caress herself while you penetrate her? Does she prefer you to caress her? Does she prefer long caresses supported or quick and short licks?

Everything is possible, there are no "standards", free your beliefs on the subject: everyone is different! (and besides, not everyone is for cunnilingus, as you can see in this debate  !)

The rhythm of porn movies VS the rhythm of real life

If like many young men (including me in my youth) you have abused porn sites, you probably have a false image of sexuality and female pleasure.

This is one of the major differences between sex "in real life" and that of porn movies: the choice of positions and the duration of each position. In a film, it must move, otherwise the viewer is bored . The director of adult films often has a set of specifications with imposed scenes, angles to vary so that the wanker does not fall asleep and does not skip on another video.

In the same way, certain positions, very visual for us spectators are in fact rather "average", even nazes in real life to help a woman reach orgasm.

In real life, how many times have I heard  "Fuck stop paaaaaaas! " Or " continue like this " or " do not move ". We had the right angle, the right movement, we just had to continue to stimulate the vagina and clitoris like that , in the same way, regularly.

I was young and stupid, no one told me that women were not microwaves and took a little longer to heat than us. Hence the importance of foreplay , you'll understand. (Even if you will sometimes end up with cramps to the tongue or in the jaws ...)

Attention: again, do not take all the advice literally. Some women do not like cunnilingus , some women heat very quickly and enjoy in two minutes. I never met two identical bodies, two girls who enjoyed the same way.

Take the time to discover them, play, explore, and have no shame in talking about female orgasm with her: it is she who will talk to you the best, and who will guide you on the way to his pleasure!

PS: I forgot to say, but cardio is also convenient for intensive sex that some women claim. Running fashion is perhaps just part of the female population who wants more endurance in bed?

PS2: sometimes, the female orgasm is our fight, our son, our battle, our obsession ... and we're a little stupid. As you know, women seek above all the quality of the relationship, the sharing, the emotional connection. Of course, they also want to enjoy, but they are not all a cheese. Do not put pressure on yourself like crazy if the girl is relaxed on the subject. Do not be more royalist than the king , for fuck's sake .

PS2: you will notice that I did not address the issue of simulation and sound volume during female orgasm. Some scream like savages (to stay polite), others have a thrill that runs through them and emits a "ahhhh" of relief before falling asleep while some other women are victims of their hormones and burst out laughing or melt tears.

The only thing universally validated: if it screams in all directions for nothing, it's an American .